When we have personal crisis’ it is very hard to keep a positive attitude. Bills are due and we cannot afford to pay them. The wife or husband has been upset for the past few days and it is stressful in the house. A neighbour is a complete hateful a#@%&#e and you think he is going to freak out if you walk out the door. Hey I have one of them so they do exist.
What can you do to try to keep up a positive attitude?
The easiest thing to do is leave the room but that is not always possible. You cannot always do that at work or if you are in situation where you must stay physically in the room. But it is an option.
Change the subject. If the topic is about someone or something not working correctly try to direct the conversation towards positive things about the person or positive ways to change something to make it work better.
Take a couple of deep breaths and stop talking so you can focus on being positive. Think of better things in your life. What goes up must come down and the reverse it also true. The down or negative in your life will be over. The negative person will walk away, the irate spouse will find a solution to what is bothering them. You will figure out how to pay the bill owed. Maybe just by calling the creditor and telling them you will be late paying. There will probably be a financial penalty for that but you have a solution.
Fix your fights. The deck should always be stacked in your favour. Breaking rules to win is unfair only to the person who made them.
Don’t allow another to pull you down. It is their problem.
Find something to inspire you. It could be a quote you read every morning, or maybe gardening you do after work. Spend sometime working on something that motivates you. Have a specific goal everyday.When you do that you will get the positive satisfaction of reaching a goal. It does not have to be world-changing and could be as simple as planting a flower. Be selective of the media you consume. Positive stories and movies will improve your attitude just as much as negative content will bring you down. If all you ever hear is bad news then all you ever expect is more bad news.
Start each day with good intentions not based with decisions made on faulty assumptions. Plan and think it through before you do anything. You want positive results uplifting you. You don’t want your good intentions and hope deflated by a negative outcome.
” If you want to cheer yourself up, cheer up everyone around you.” Mark Twain
- 3 Ways to Rewrite Your Story and Embrace the Future (psychologytoday.com)